Pramod

The title suggests that I should be having a malyalee friend, an acquaintance or even a malyalee wife. But incidentally I am a malyalee myself.  This thought came to me when recently I met another malyalee friend of mine who asked me if I had filed my "Ingum Dax"? I,myself born in a west Indian state, studied in various schools with diverse friends and also a wife who is a non-malyalee, failed to understand him. To be very honest , I do not have "that" malyalee accent and carry a distinct north Indian one... "Ingum " means a name and "Dax" means -as in Dax Performance -Index,  more like a Market watch! "Why the hell would I use a file on Ingum who does a market watch ?"......... Being the malyalee blood I am,  soon realised that I should have filed my " Income tax "!. But yes,  malyalees are awesome people. They make for great friends and are amazing company. They can drink like a fish. No doubt getting drunk is even ...

"I remember the time I was kidnapped and they sent a piece of finger to my father. He said he wanted more proof"!--Rodney Dangerfield. Well,  that's my father for you. 72 years and going strong. He remembers all the important things. Sometimes he can't remember my name, but last night he told me exactly how much money I owe him. When I was a kid,  he even refused to spend money on me. Once I broke my arm playing football and instead of taking me to the Ortho, he took me to the airport and tried to get a free X-ray where they do the luggages. Once I was passing through a graveyard with my dad and I told him that this was a popular cemetery.He informed me "yes I know ,people are just dying to get in there! ". Looking at him wiping the sweat on his brow I asked him again,  " dad,  are you al-right ?"-he said " no,  I'm half left"... I got the scare of my life when one day he decided to take a break from all the ongoing chores...

A big question I always ask myself  : "what happened? " What happened to me. I was full of life and energy. I was a fighter who could defy all odds and get my things done. All of  a sudden I am loosing.....I cannot fight anymore. I am just tired. Tired of the ways things are shaping up.I have been reduced to a mess. I have been chained to shackles of helplessness,negativity and de-motivation. I want to live. Like I have lived before. All the smiles,  laughter and companionship  at present are fake. I am going into a known oblivion.I miss those days when I used to laugh with my friends,  family and compatriots. It seems that nobody cares now...... I want to get there,  I want to go back to my old days. People claim that they are with me,  but I know that at the back of their mind,  they have distanced themselves from me.Using me for their personal benefits. Once this is done,  I am history. Well,  that's how a human mind works! At war...

Being great is more than just doing good work, or performing well under pressure.It is an comprehensive attitude towards the world, and how one interprets it. I think greatness requires lot of space to breathe.Guess, that's why it rises to the top. Are you ready to meet the eagerness that Monday has for you ? Every Monday presents to you the opportunity for greatness even more so than any other day.Monday is the beginning.It is when you announce to yourself and the world "This is how it will be !" What will it bring ? perhaps riches beyond your most fiery pipe-dreams await you.Maybe fame and recognition, or adventure and unanticipated creativity lay just ahead. The whole thing is up to you ! This is the moment for which you ask when things go wrong - a time to start from scratch.Go do it, right now ! make it happen. make it work. I woke up in the morning refulgent with excitement and eagerness ready to face the day.So much ahead of me, so much to do, so much w...

6.45:am I had slept very late last night and was in deep slumber  when the doorbell rang- still dizzy  and drugged by sleep, I dragged myself to the door. Opening it , I saw him. A UFO must have been landed somewhere and he must have thought to visit me first. For he had a half green, half blue face and his hands were smeared in a green blue combination. I looked at him stunned and mesmerized. Then he uttered those words ........."bhai...... Happy Holi ". My best friend was here to play Holi with me and I yielded.! Festival of colours Holi is a time to rejuvenate. The significance of Holi has crossed many pages in history to arrive here as a time to celebrate resurrection. A spirit of festivity. Colours speak louder than words. It's a time to create new bonds, reach out to others and forget the past worries. I've known people take it as a day of drinking and am no stranger to it. A festival of attainment of good over evil. Wash away all the evil spirits wi...

  “Some people grumble that roses have thorns; I am grateful that thorns have roses.” — Alphonse Karr I never wanted to be in debt. But it seems like I owe a lot of thank you. God speed.! The reason , I’ve had good seasons and some deeply painful ones. I’ve made some amazingly good choices and some contemptibly bad mistakes. I guess I am very human. I think that somehow, we learn who we really are and then live with that decision. Whatever it takes to find the real you, don't be besieged if the rest of the world looks on in shock or awe. Knowing how people treat you is their karma, but how you react is yours. No need for revenge. Just sit back and wait. Those who hurt you will eventually screw up themselves and if you're lucky, God will let you watch.( an old saying ) Let's Be happy with what we have. Be excited about what we want. I've learned that nobody really cares if you're miserable, so you might as well be happy. Anyone can give up, it'...

To all of you out there ! It's not very common to find someone who hates you at first, but develops into the person that means more to you than any other. Thank you for (unfortunately literally) making me laugh so hard that I pee my pants, with your idiotic jokes and completely inappropriate but still extremely funny humor.   Thank you for making me laugh so hard that I cry, and also making me laugh when I want to cry. Thank you for listening to bad news that I was not supposed to share with anyone, but I still shared with you. Thank you for understanding that sometimes things are warped in my head, but that I will soon realize how crazy I sound. You are the only person who can make me smile and laugh . Only someone special like you can bring me some comfort in those dead end situations, those moments of doubt and uncertainty, so common nowadays, when the ghosts of violence, of insecurity and unemployment hover over our heads! To you out there who has that b...

W ords are not enough to express my feelings. While I write this,I have tears  of joy  in my eyes to have such a wonderful family of friends and companions who have stood with me through thick and thin. I also need to acknowledge just how much I have been shaped by you all .. I have a myriad of experiences, too many to mention, that have impacted my life in a memorable and meaningful way. What follows barely scratches on  the surface of all that I have learned over the years. I have learned that it takes a group of very special people to commit to their jobs on a daily basis - even when the going gets tough - and believe me...we've all experienced that over the years. The peals of laughter I hear resounding from my "special circle"  reflect the vibrant and happy " family "that we are fortunate to have. That a cup of tea with friends can make a difference - can give you that much needed perspective.That life's most complex choices had the simple soluti...

Saturday, Saturn's day or is it Satan's day ? I am going to find out if Satan really dwells on Saturn ..I'll get back to you sometime... Meanwhile, back on earth, I am still bewildered and left mumbling why do we get a Saturday.? The revolts, skirmishes and events unfolded during the week gives you the creeps. A weekend off to recuperate and tend to the wounds.. Is it enough ?.. Hello....( He's still looking at you.)The wife and kids look on expectantly.. Do we or do we not.? Can you guys be more expressive please ? I've got other things to do.Mind over matter that is ! The kids want to play with me, so it seems..and unaware of their scheming plot I get ready. They've a green signal to play and before I join  half of their game is finished leaving me in a lurch. Nowhere to go, I turn to my better half to bail me out of this plot..." Could you drive, take us to a shrine 150 miles across the earth?" she asks.. Stunned and mumbling, ...

                            * We rate men by what they finish, not by what they attempt * Let me tell you what I found out.." The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why !!" Am still unable to find out the latter. Guess, the day is yet to come. Why am I ever born ? Did I do something great, did I achieve something big.. The answer is still a no !.. How do I know which is the most important day of my life ?. I've met scores of people from different creed of brains. They have stood by me, against me and some even robbed me of my principles.. Yet, I failed to learn from my mistakes and learn from knowledge gained. Always wanted to be somebody.But I realized later, I should have been more specific.I was always told that we are on earth to help others.. Question : What on earth are the others here for ??            Loved these lin...

Life is strange.Some people lose over and ever again. Some have poor judgments.Some have bad habits.Some do bad things and still, others take unnecessary chances..   Me..? I fall down a lot.  I don't mean from time to time, but all the time .. I fall so often that my face has ,calluses-meaning :  a thickened and hardened part of the skin , especially in an area that has been subjected to friction. But falling isn't  the problem - - landing is ...!!      If I can master the landing process, falling would be no big deal. __________________________________________________________________________________________ You may be smarter than me, but I'm more creative than you.I will find ways of getting the job done you have never even considered ! You may be more experienced than me, but I'm a good learner and I'm hungry.You should know - a hungry lion is dangerous and always eats on time. You may even have the skills, but skills can ...

You know those days when nothing goes right ?. The times when everything you do makes no sense or gains no progress.? When the harder you push, the greater the resistance ?. Yes, one of those days. well..I am smack in the middle of one right now !.I have been surrounded by conflict and dismay for so many hours that my head is about to pop off. Look for another ways to resolve matters when bad things happen.Focus on what is right in front of us.Think about the matter from another angle. Turn it around. Turn it upside down. Turn it inside out.Find ways to make it better rather than swooping method for making it disappear. Ohhhhh!!! I just found what I was searching for..........Maybe the day isn't total loss after all

I used to take very poor care of my life. I let it crumble and deteriorate. I let it fall apart in places where it was most important to keep well maintained. Then time passed  by.Conditions changed and I could no longer continue to live in a place that would not let me prosper nor support growth and change. So I changed. I began building from the ground up.I relaid a solid foundation. I poured thick, heavy layers of concentration in places where big holes had been. It took some time.Some days were miserable. But I knew that the world would not build my life for me . My life is what I make it. I do the work, I reap the rewards or I face the consequences. Life is beautiful, life is amazing. Life is splendid or life is hard.Life is tedious.Life is a disaster. It all depends on what you make of it.

People think that tomorrow has all the answers.."Tomorrow , tomorrow , I cant wait until tomorrow ". That's what I hear everywhere I go. But today is the one with all the answers.Today is when we can live fully, express our greatness and share our love . Not tomorrow, Today ! With all the things going around me I still find excitement in the fact that today is made up of a thousand yesterdays. and no matter how bad things might get, I wouldn't trade a thousand yesterdays for today. This is a prelude to what I am going to explain next.!